My daughter’s ex and I have been secretly seeing each other. She broke up with him years ago, and they didn’t have sex so I never thought it would become an issue. My husband is always away on business trips and I was lonely. Two months ago, his friend caught us at a hotel. My husband came home early and secretly investigated. The guy later told me my husband had him beaten until he confessed. I asked my husband for a divorce, but he refused. He hasn’t spoken to me in a month, and the tension at home is unbearable. I don’t know what to do.