My husband is selfish in bed, I have had this conversation with him countless times. He keeps saying “he’s not the sex type”. Every time we have sex it’s one pattern for 6 years even though I initiate it, he declines. To spoil it he comes fast and leaves me hanging, I have never felt wanted during sex. Rush in and rush out, no emotions like am a stranger. This man just returned to the country after 1year, and it’s the same exact thing. At this point my vibrator works better, since I can’t cheat! Crossed my mind, but just for sex. Hell no