I dated this Igbo girl mid last year. Well I don’t want to generalize this story because before her, it was supposed to be another ibo girl, but we didn’t work out, why we didn’t work out is still a mystery left unsolved but I left it to the universe. Probably if we worked out, i wouldn’t have met or rather dated this demon who nearly almost ended my life. And since then ive just had ptsd towards ibo ladies especially those from the state where she’s from. Okay for starters, she has this domineering character, I’ll shed more light on that, when we started dating, she plainly told me in areas where I was deficit, she’ll step up. How does that sound? And as an alpha, traditional Urhobo man that I am, that didn’t sit well with me, honestly, my brain interpreted most of it as as a threat for the first one or two weeks we dated until I genuinely let it go cause that’s not my person in all honesty. Giving me excuses that it was how she was raised and all sorts. So like I said, domineering character, we were always clashing and outside of the fact that I painted myself as an alpha-traditional man, I’m just a baby boy who has soft love to give, plenty of it mind you. I’d lead you with all the love and care in this world and yeah she did say it when the relationship eventually ended. I love soft love and I made my stance pretty clear, but whatever load(s) she was carrying from over the years and probably past relationships didn’t let her breathe and let me love her the way she wanted me to love her and the way I’d naturally love her. So we had the first very nasty fight, I in particular said a lot of nasty things to her but somehow we came back, moved past it or so I thought. Had an nastier second fight where apparently she came prepared, we both said a lot of nasty things this time. And honestly, I just thought that was the end, cause omo it was that nasty.(not physical but words, as I’d never hit a woman albeit I’m a gym bro) But we had an issue, there was a 2-factor authentication scare the very day we had that fight. So we had to keep up communication until we got that out of the way, thankfully it was just a scare. Things continued as normal and in my head I thought we were getting back together only for her to give me the shocker that we weren’t and she had disconnected. I tried but she wasn’t even forthcoming, painful but I mean obviously I can’t force her. Said she was ok being platonic and I made my stance clear I wasn’t: wished her well with her endeavors and didn’t block, just deleted the chats and memories. Gbam!!! Omo e cum be like nollywood altogether people because tell me why in the coming months, someone was fighting me spiritually, for a relationship you called quits and didn’t even try to salvage what was left of it. Isn’t it funny to you? Mind you in the course of trying to salvage from the second fight she reminded me of something I said from the first fight and how she forgave me but didn’t forget. I mean this is someone who we practically continued to live together, make love, she’d cook and I’d trust her enough to eat. That means all that time I’m lucky I wasn’t poisoned. Crazy!!! So why fight me from a relationship you didn’t want to continue, because I refused to stay platonic with you or what was the issue, I’m throwing this question to the audience esp to the Igbo ladies. Cause in my many waka’s I was told that’s how their ladies especially from that part behave. And fuck did I mention this was someone I thought would make up for my lapses as per being a good Christian girlfriend and wife cause I was going to take it that far. lol, she dey wake up Dey pray watin no good for night dey disturb the neighbors, but see what she did. I’m just happy I came out of that and happy I had good people around my corner when all of it was happening that I didn’t over do or do what was on my mind to do. Because you can’t poke somebody and try to define their reaction. Hell people have transited over a dispute of N20kpa, this was my life being threatened here and she was coming from diff angles. So if to her fighting me was justified because I said something awful from an earlier fight in the relationship, to me anything would have been justified that I walked out with my life. I’m just happy it didn’t get to that point though. It’s just crazy, funny enough three other ladies I’ve met after her are both Igbo ladies, it’s crazy cause no matter how much I think I despise them, it always comes back to bite me in the face. They’re just sweet girls but demons too. And I’m way cautious now plus the whole taking to wife someone from that tribe ended with the demon slayer bitch, never again.