I’m 22 and have known this guy for almost 7 years. We started as friends but always had feelings for each other. At one point I wanted to leave, and that’s when he finally expressed himself to an extent. Eventually, we both acknowledged that we genuinely love each other. He’s still a young guy and we’re both figuring life out, but he has always told me he’ll never leave and that wherever life takes us, we’ll figure it out together and I’ve always said the same since I was 17. The problem is, we’re still undefined, and lately I feel like I’m the one putting in more effort and emotional energy. Although i was very okay with it at first, now i feel old enough for commitment, I love him deeply and understand that he’s going through his own season, but I’m starting to wonder whether I’m being patient with someone who is still growing or simply accepting treatment that isn’t enough for me.
How do you know when to keep believing in someone you love, and when to accept that love alone isn’t enough