Question, why do men choose to love a woman in the way they want rather than how a woman wants to be loved. My husband will give you money, buy you hairs or whatever you ask for that he can afford at the time, he will give to you for which I am grateful but why does he feel like that is what romance is and when I complain he’ll say that’s how men are, men are not wired like women and blablabla. I always say I have a husband and a baby daddy not a lover or a friend. To hold him in public is war, to kiss him never, to hug him never even when you get intimate with him, he’s gone once he’s done no intimacy nothing straight to sleep or he’ll go and hold our son. Sometimes when you try to hug him, he’ll tell you there is heat. I’ve gotten so tired of wanting to be loved deeply and it’s so sad. Sometimes i wonder if all marriages are like that or just mine, sometimes i wonder if he see me like a prostitute (hence the in and out bye). Is this a men’s thing or does he not feel, does he not love me like that I wonder. It’s crazy for a two years old couple to be living like people who have been married for twenty years.