I got into a relationship with this guy (unmarried) around December, though we’ve been friends for over a year but we didn’t talk much then. He’s 9years older than me. I’ll be 24 this year. When we started dating he was everything I could ask for, well mannered, God fearing, wanted us to be celibate and all. Then he said he wants to marry me and he’s serious about it, so we decided to spend some days together as aspiring couples. Mehn I saw a whole different thing! He’s always talking about how his ex hurt him, he takes things too serious (you can’t joke with him), nags about every little thing and all. The first day together I woke up late (we woke up together) because we spent all night talking about a lot of things then he said so I don’t know I’ll wake up and ask him what he’ll eat, I just apologized because at my family house I usually do that before work. Next day I asked him, he said he’s not ready to eat so I told him he should let me know when he is. Then after few minutes he called his chef to give us food, I was confused because he started telling me how terrible I am that I’m here and the chef is serving us. I just kept calm because I’m trying to work on myself lately. He noticed I’m always calm when he starts raising his voice at me, then he starts calling me names and speaking to me in the most condescending manner, also tries to make me feel bad about myself more like insecure about my looks (I’m actually so pretty but petite), projecting his insecurities on me. I endured all this till the day he did something very hurtful to me, I spoke back to him then he started telling everyone around him that I’m so disrespectful, you push someone to the wall and when they react you call them disrespectful. We eventually stopped talking though my introduction is supposed to be around April but few days ago he started trying to speak to me and make things right but I’m really confused because I’ve given him so many chances. I know no one is perfect but I grew up with so much love, how can you speak to someone you love in such a very rude way. Trying to impose pregnancy before marriage on them or trying to make them feel insecure or get angry when I’m at work because you feel I might socialize with everyone. How can you post shady things online about your partner, Calling me a random girl because I follow male celebrities which I later unfollowed but he follows random girls even liking & commenting on their pictures, they don’t even respond! SMH, I’m drained. I feel sad telling him I might not be able to go with the wedding but I don’t think this is how I want to be loved for the rest of my life. Watched my parents while growing up they never treated each other this way.