My girlfriend recently lost her ex-boyfriend, who many referred to as her twin. They grew up in the same compound and were born just two days apart, knowing each other for 27 years. They dated for four years but broke up due to his drug use. He tragically died last month in a car crash, and my girlfriend has been crying nonstop since then. I understand her grief and have tried to console her, but it feels like it’s never enough. Now she’s sick and still crying. My friends say I’m selfish for wanting her to move on so fast. I can’t talk to her mom because she is also devastated; she and the ex-boyfriend’s mom are best friends and are both mourning. Am I selfish for wanting my girlfriend to stop grieving. It feels like I don’t exist in her life anymore, and I worry she loves him more than she loves me.
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Dude!?! Are you for real?!? ‘Feels like she loves him more than you’??? Are you even listening to yourself? THE GUY IS DEAD! They grew up together! So minus the relationship, this is someone she knew all her life! Have you considered the fact that she might be feeling guilty and blaming herself for leaving him? And probably also asking herself all the WHAT IF questions? Maybe what if she didn’t leave, maybe he’d still be alive? Where is your emotional intelligence? Abeg relax! Talk to her in a loving manner to express your feelings but that mindset is already a problem tbh.