Not attracted to my wife, sex with her is not pleasurable, I don’t even look forward to it. Less than 9 months into marriage & less than 20 times so far, she’s not even pregnant or something. Can’t just wrap my head around having her. Sometimes I lose erection during sex. Yeah we dated but agreed no sex till marriage & here I am. I have to imagine it’s my ex to man up being with her. I’m sure she’s tired too, we’re friends but this isn’t just clicking!