I’ve been seeing this guy for about 6 months now. He’s 8 years older than me and he’s nice . Although the age gap sometimes makes things awkward because sometimes he doesn’t get some of my references. When we first started talking he was eager to meet up and all, we first met up at a small restaurant. He asked me to be his girl a few times and I agreed because I liked him and I knew my parents would too. When we made things official, the relationship became stiff, we don’t go out, he only wants me to come hang out at his place—- sex is not always involved but we make out often. We went out to a restaurant once ( I practically forced him) and I’ve taken him out too and paid. I’m very independent, I have a good job and in graduate school, I also have my own place so I’m not looking for financial help from anyone. I asked him what the problem was and he said he was broke ( he’s in graduate sch. PhD). I know he has potential but I don’t understand how we can be best friends and be open with each other if we don’t hang out often . I’ve offered to pay for dates and even do little home dinners , he still wouldn’t bulge. I don’t know if he’s embarrassed, but his lack of enthusiasm has me fed up. I’ve tried to understand and told him I’ll still be here for him regardless . I eventually broke things off because he will get upset when I try to brainstorm in- house activities we could do to spice up our relationship. I tried, but I can’t.