I have been married for almost 4 years and we have a 2 year old child but for the past 2 years, we have only had sex 2 times. Last year, we didn’t have sex at all (this includes no kissing or any form
of touching) and talking about it doesn’t seem to be working.
Meanwhile, it’s not like I added weight after pregnancy o! I went back to my size 6/8, flat tummy and all.
He got us sex toys but we haven’t used them.
I don’t check his phone because he has not given me a reason to suspect him and also because I am scared of what I may find on it because the last time I checked before marriage I saw stuff.
I checked recently and saw that he has about 4 or 5 different ladies missing his dick, that he sees almost everyday. He had even been in touch with his exes and sending them money. Plus I am self employed and doing alright, he does not give me allowance which I am okay with because I felt that we are both self employed so it’s the little way I can help out but if he is giving others money and they are working then I should get mine too.
Then I cheated. I felt justified. I was caught. I apologized and he said he is okay with it as long as I don’t disrespect him. I still didn’t tell him about what i know but I have all the evidences on my phone
Now, the person I cheated with is in love with me. And this is where it gets confusing. I mean, i like him and feel strongly for him but love??
I know myself and hubby won’t be having sex anytime soon or even anymore and I am at peace with that because he does everything a husband and father is supposed to do when it comes to the household things, we both share the major bills.
So let’s just say we are living like housemates, plus we don’t fight, so it is quite peaceful.