My older brother recently sponsored me to the UK for masters, along the line money finished so we had to borrow #5m. Shortly after I got to UK his girlfriend got pregnant and he started talking about getting married to her before it’s obvious. Meanwhile I’ve been in the UK few months and still have £2.8k outstanding tuition that is past the deadline to pay off. I’m riding my luck now and praying the university gives more time to pay. We also haven’t settled the #5m we borrowed and it yields 10% interest monthly. So my bro was saying he wants to do a big traditional wedding if he sees money and I told him it’s better we do lowkey and also prioritize paying off the debt. He then said I’m selfish that I’m only thinking about the things that affect me instead of supporting him now that he wants to do something for himself. Honestly, I didn’t know what to say. Also I know I can’t support him at the moment because of the tuition I still owe. Am I really selfish
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Yeah, you are. Not in an overt way and, to be fair to you, it’s probably not something you’re doing consciously. But yes you are being selfish. He’s already done this much for you and would’ve likely supported in setlling the debt anyway. But even if he helped you at first, don’t forget that this is YOUR debt. Try and find a job, you have 20hrs at least, or something. But most importantly, apologize and express your genuine happiness for him. And get him and his wife-to-be something, even if it’s just chocolate.