Came into this new city and got a job. My boss starts coming close, only for me to find out he has a girlfriend of 7 years. A girl he introduced to his family from the get go, a girl his family trained in school, a girl they’ve promised marriage to. He confirmed this when I found out and he told me the relationship was like a situationship to him already. I thought his closeness was for sex initially but turns out, he was more serious and leaning on a marriage angle. Months later, he is becoming even more serious about how much he loves me, how much peace and happiness he finds with me, how much he wants to do life with me, how much he always just has to be himself around me and how my presence in his firm makes the work easier and the productivity is evident. But with his girlfriend, he has never felt that synergy and has clocked out of the relationship even before he met me (“why didn’t you let her know since if that’s the case”). I’ve told him it’s in his hands to make things work, as even his Mom likes his girlfriend already and they refer to each other as in-laws, but he hasn’t made any solid move to end things. When he tried to make a move to end things, his girlfriend called his mom and sisters, and they talked to him and he took ending things slowly. I hate this situation because I have never been one to be in a situation that hurts another lady. It’s making me want to leave the whole job, because he is literally on my neck, telling me how much in love he is already with me and how I should be patient with the situation and should trust he’ll handle things, how convinced he is that he wants to marry me instead. But he isn’t showing any major signs of ending what he is already into. No signs of talking to your mom about your feelings. He only talked to his girlfriend and she was of the opinion that I could just be a temporary distraction and all that. Then when I offer he listens to his girlfriend and his family and let me be for my own peace. He starts begging, crying and falling ill saying how unhappy his life will ever be if I let go. Are all men usually confused like this when it’s time to settle down. Smh