I’m a 29 year old lady, still struggling with my life, currently serving in Abuja and learning work aswell. I’m not in any relationship and I don’t even have the desire to be in one. All my life has been centered around men and marriage. This is my first time of decentering men, I just want to have a stable job and live life in my own terms and not to picked by men but my mum is making life hell for me, always complaining how I’m worthless without a man and a child, that my sole purpose on earth is to be married and have kids, I’m just tired. I really want to cut her off but I just can’t, two seconds I will forget all the things she said to me. Mind you my father was and is still very abusive to her, she was the main provider in their marriage but the way she holds on to the marriage eh. My father is just tall and huge, always telling me I don’t have a taste in men because I just like my men then slim, that I’m just tall for nothing, it’s just too much.