I have a girlfriend whom we have been dating from 2016 when I got into university, but we have actually known each other during our jamb coaching session but never spoke. We have toured some country on a regular basis, I stay in Dubai. Which every 6month since Jan 2022 she always come through and have the best moments of our life. But recently things got ruined and I’m not buoyant. Even the bearest minimum I couldn’t afford. Could you believe me this year May, still had her around as usual. She came around to Dubai spent a month with me. But on Dec 11 this month I got video call from her which I don’t always picked because I don’t want to bother her about my problem which I like to fight and face my fears alone as a man should and picked up only to find a guy on the other end. Telling me I’m a mugu paying her bills and doing things for her. But he is the one enjoying her goodies and having sex with her back to back on a regular basis. Even from the call I can see my lady is guilty as charged looking down and pale. I’m pained because this guy don’t even come to me even at my worst moment I’m at the moment. More like a low life who is married. The last thing I would ever thought of happening to me, I mean this is the lady I established. She has a store which I set up and lot more things I have done not to start mentioning I have always trusted her with all my life thinking all women are not the same. But how I found out is so funny because they both had issues or disagreements. This is a lady i give a liberty of freedom. I mean this guy is so controlling over her, has access to her passcode. I mean very controlling over her life. I have seen it all in this 2024 more than I have seen in my whole existence since 3 decade ago. I don’t know whether to cry or laugh. Been popping pills, smoking and drinking really bad lately just to get over this trauma because I couldn’t figure out what lead to this action. I’m not a saint but I have always made it known. If I catch her cheating it’s the end of the road even though I have done a lot for you. I’ll let go. This is a lady I’m planning on processing Canada to start our life out there next year. Propose and get married to. I have been unable to tell anyone. This is just eating me up day in day out. What does a woman really want. I don’t think I would be getting married ever.
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Sorry you feel that way poster. Take your time to heal properly & try again
saddest thing I’ve read in my life, I can’t even advise you because I know you’re not here for that. But it’s well, everything happens for a reason. And funny thing is, you’ll be fine. This too shall pass! Cry as much as u can, talk about it if it helps, I’ll be praying for you.
I’m so sorry Dear Poster❤️, Please take it easy on the pills and alcohols, Pain happens, give yourself time, you will definetely get over it.
I feel your pain poster. I feel hurt too, even when I don’t know you. I don’t even know what to say. Yeah, life. It happens. Sometimes you don’t know why it happens. But it’s life. Please be strong. I’d advise you let it all go. It hurts, but let it go. Slowly, if that would help. Always remember that some people don’t care about the sacrifices you’ve made for them. They care only about their feelings. Be strong.
By saying you are not a saint, does it mean you have been cheating on her too? Then you both deserve each other.