I live Aboard. I’m talking to 2 serious guys. 1 is in the State and the other is in Nigeria. Both amazing men. The one in the State is actually somebody I loved and still do. However, he is scared of commitment and stuff due to his parents messy marriage. He cooks, provides and knows how to spoil me but he confuses me. I do not feel secured with him because I don’t know wtf we are. It’s been 2-3 years yall. The Nigerian guy is a hustler who is still perfecting his craft but he is consistent. Problem is he wants to marry and I’m there yet. I have communicated that but to no avail, he wants me. I’m unsure the true motives behind his actions because we have never met before to be confessing love but we have been talking for a while. I cannot marry him and bring him aboard, I can’t even afford to marry wrong or play with the marriage card. I’m confused asf! I have to make a choice on what is best for me
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2-3 years and you do not know what you guys are? Have you asked him if you have and you still don’t know he is not the one for you. If he wanted to he would. The guy in Nigeria is seeing a pasport in his future through you. He has never seen you before but wants to marry you. If he is actually serious the two of you should meet up first and take it slow from there its not just about marriage. You guys would have to make difficult decisions, is he willing to relocate to another country and start all over. Its easier said than done.