I am in my 20s and have a big dilemma that I have to choose but because of my youthful foolishness I have entangled myself. I have to make a choice between 2 men. 1 is in Nigeria and 1 is in the same state with me in the US. I started seeing this one in the US since my college days and he is an amazing man but there’s lack of security and clarity with him. He’s completely scared of commitment it seems and I practically beg him to seek counseling but he’s not into it and I’m at my wits end. He is a great man but as a lover I haven’t been given no assurance nor security because his parents also had a messy ass marriage and now he’s hesitant. Now I can wait and endure his hesitation but what cause. What if I am truly not what he wants which is why he’s hesitant. Even though he says he loves me to everybody he can find and shout it to. Now the guy in Nigeria I met online. I was a lot hesitant and still is but he is also an angel. It’s been about 2 years and he has remained consistent. He gets me, we rarely argue and there’s understanding and peace there. He wants to get married but then there are my hesitations. I promised never to bring a guy to the US via marriage because it has caused several women that I know to run mad with pain and heartbreak. He doesn’t make as much as I make but he comes through with his all on days that I have nothing and I have to deny him sometimes so that he can keep his earnings for himself. I find myself at a huge crossroads and I need to make a decision for life. The US guy wants to go to counseling and sort out our differences but I know like the guy in Nigeria too.