An old flame from 8 years ago reappeared into my life, trying to get back together, but I rejected him cause I am married plus I wouldn’t date him now regardless. The thing is that I believe he was being strategic about the reconnection cause shortly after, he came to me for urgent financial help, which I feel he only wanted us back so he could emotionally manipulate me into coming through for him. I refused to take on the risk of lending that huge amount mainly because I didn’t think he deserved my grace. I’d have done it for a friend or family, just not him. Partly cause of how he ghosted and dumped me all those years back. I’ll admit, my church mind feels a little guilty about how I outrightly refused to help despite his repeated attempts, because of how he had knelt to plead for forgiveness for the way he handled things then. But my other mind still feels it was all manipulation to get me where he wanted me.