This might sound shallow, but it’s much deeper than it seems. I left my ex because he was obsessed with spending on and doing big financial favors (dashing, not loans) for outsiders and telling me about it, but never coming through for me when I needed his help or support. I know it’s his money, but the trend was toxic. He seemed more interested in looking good for, and flexing on others for clout, then telling me about it, than actually watering his own garden. Couldn’t deal.